What Color Should the Mother of the Bride Really Wear?
Let's talk about the elephant in the room—or should I say, the color chart at the bridal salon. If you're a mother of the bride, you've probably heard a million "rules" about what you can and can't wear. Some say avoid white (obviously), others warn against black, and don't even think about red. But here's the truth: most of these rules are outdated.
The Colors That Always Work
Navy, dusty blue, champagne, and soft metallics are the MVPs of mother of the bride dresses. Why? They photograph beautifully, complement most wedding color palettes, and look elegant without stealing the spotlight. I've seen hundreds of moms choose these shades, and I've never heard a single regret. Jewel tones like emerald, sapphire, and burgundy are also gorgeous choices, especially for fall and winter weddings. They're rich, sophisticated, and honestly? They make most skin tones glow.
What About Black?
Here's where things get interesting. Twenty years ago, black was considered too somber for weddings. Today? It's perfectly acceptable, especially for evening celebrations. I've watched countless mothers look absolutely stunning in black gowns. The key is choosing a fabric with some sheen or texture—think lace, beading, or silk—so it reads as formal rather than funeral. That said, check with your daughter first. Some brides still prefer their moms skip black, and that's okay too.
Colors to Coordinate (Not Match)
You don't need to match the bridesmaids exactly—in fact, please don't. Instead, aim to complement the wedding palette. If the bridesmaids are wearing blush pink, consider mauve, champagne, or soft gold. The goal is to look like you belong in the photos without blending into the bridal party.
The Real Rule
After years in the wedding dress business, I can tell you the only rule that matters: wear something that makes you feel confident and comfortable. You'll be in photos forever, greeting guests, and probably shedding a few happy tears. Choose a color that makes you feel like the best version of yourself. And yes, that might even be white—as long as it's clearly a mother-of-the-bride dress and not a wedding gown. Ivory, champagne, and soft white can be beautiful choices for beach or garden weddings.
Bottom line? Talk to your daughter, consider the venue and season, and then pick the color that makes you smile when you see yourself in the mirror. That's the one.